Archive for ‘Kindergarten’

January 2, 2010

My #Best09…Inspired by @GwenBell – Best Project, Best Startup, Best Web Tool, Best Learning Experience, Best Gift

Continuing @GwenBell ‘s #best09 Blog Challenge

Read all of my #best09 here.

December 21 – Best Project

End of school year memory book projects

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A project I started this year that I am proud of is the culmination/end of school year project for Ben, Lily and Ava. This is a project that we do at Explorer Preschool for the kids – it is meant to be a gift for them and a symbol or record of their year. I struggled with it my first year at the school…in fact, I didn’t do the project. I was just sort of…stuck. I wasn’t sure what to do, I was overwhelmed with work at the time and I struggled with the twin thing – if I do X for Lily, I have to do X for Ben, but then it must be unique too…

In May of 2009, I figured it out and was really happy with my result. I used the kids’ scanned in artwork from the year and made a collage out of it. Basically, a digital scrapbook page, with the collaged art work, their school photo and phrases that trigger memories from the year. It is a project I will keep going for each year of their schooling and I plan to make a book for each of the kids to keep all of the years’ projects in. More about the project here.

December 22 – Best Startup

Clever Girls Collective

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I have helped quite a few startups on the legal front, but Clever Girls Collective is my favorite of the year. The three founders of the company, Stefania Pomponi Butler, Cat Lincoln and Sheila Bernus Dowd – AKA “the Clever Girls” – have got it going on. They are all truly amazing women – so good at what they do, incredibly connected and just “good people.” I loved working with them as they kicked off their company last Spring and can’t wait to see what happens.

Disclosure: I hold a small ownership stake in Clever Girls.

December 23 – Best Web Tool

Evernote

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I started using Evernote at the beginning of the year and can’t believe I just discovered it. When I first started using it, it was mainly a to-do list, because that is what seemed easiest to type up. After all, I do have a never-ending to-do list and I try all the time to GTD (Get Things Done) by getting it all out of my head and onto paper. But I quickly figured out that it can capture so much more. I take all of my meeting notes in it, I have my “life list” housed there, I take notes on wines I like, I manage my recipes and Christmas gift list. It is easy to tag and sort your notes. It ever searches handwritten notes, not that I do much of that. I KNOW there is so much more that I can do with Evernote, like scanning my kids’ art to it or saving tweets I like, or 100 other ideas. Having an associated Evernote iPhone app, a desktop app and a web app makes it so that I can get to my stuff from anywhere (ah, I love the cloud).

December 24 – Best Learning Experience

Kindergarten

This year, as Ben and Lily started kindergarten, I did too. Just when you have preschool down, it is time to switch it up and move on to a whole new thing. And a whole new thing it is. Kindergarten these days is not the kindergarten I went to – no longer is there (much) play. It is highly structured and academic (at least where my kids attend). And we are not in a competitive private school, we bike or scooter or walk (or drive…sometimes…ok, quite a lot lately) to our neighborhood public school. It is still more pressure and more homework that I anticipated. They ARE learning a lot and so am I.

Things I have learned so far in kindergarten

  • The neighborhood community can be amazing – we have used it, given back to it, become a part of it. At the beginning of the year, one kinder mom threw a little playdate party at her house, I had a holiday party, another mom is talking about a Valentine’s party…traditions can be born quickly. Park days on Wednesdays? Love them.
  • As a twin parent with kids in two separate classes, I CAN ask the teacher to have birthday cake in one class (or otherwise make certain accomodations to make things a bit easier for me as the parent). They might say no, but I’ll never know if I don’t ask.
  • Someday I WILL miss the early pickup time on a Wednesday. It’s ok…see the neighborhood community note above. (I haven’t missed yet, but I’m sure I will!)
  • One of the best things we did was not to have a ton after school activities going on when the kids started kindergarten. We have all-day kindergarten (8-2), and that is a long day for them. I went to a talk last spring about not overscheduling and overstressing kids and the speaker noted that kids (until adolescence) should have HALF of their time for unscheduled, free play time. This is pretty far from the norm these days. We are starting one day of an after school science class in January, but that’s all we have done for the past 9 months or so. School and play time is enough. t is tempting to do swimming and soccer and dance and this and that, but really…it is not good for them to have TOO much to do. Kids need to know how to figure out what to do when they are bored. And they need some down time. They are FIVE!
  • Anything I do in my kids’ classes (or at my kids school, even if I can’t always volunteer in the classroom) will amaze them and help them learn. For instance, I am Ben and Lily’s “Art Teacher” once a month. Although I am no great artist, I think the are in awe of this. And it is super fun and something I think we will all remember for years to come.
  • A love of learning really starts and ends at home. I can’t expect schools to do everything I want them to. Parents are their kids’ first teacher after all.
  • Patterns are math concepts. I had no idea! I’m sure my limited knowledge of the world will soon be surpassed by my smart kids…

December 25 – Best Gift

Our Christmas Puppy

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The best gift this year was was the one Lily wrote to Santa to ask for – a puppy (I wrote about the gift on SV Moms). She is quickly becoming part of our family. Lily keeps asking if we really get to keep her and I keep saying (sometimes to my surprise)…yes!

January 1, 2010

My #Best09…Inspired by @GwenBell – Tea of the Year, Word or Phrase, Best Shopping, Best Car Ride, Best New Person

Continuing @GwenBell ‘s #best09 Blog Challenge

Read all of my #best09 here.

December 16 – Tea of the Year

Fancy Nancy Tea Party

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Lily and Ava were invited to our neighbor’s five-year-old birthday fancy tea party (ala Fancy Nancy) and it was so…fancy. If you are ever planning a little girl tea party, take a cue from Michelle (the five-year-old’s mom). The table was beautifully set, with feather boas thrown across on all of the chairs. Each girl had white gloves, a pretty berry and marshmallow bowl and a little jar of fudge for dipping at her place setting. Trays of flower and heart shaped sandwiches were in the middle of the table. Tea pots of tea, hot chocolate and milk were on the table – love those choices! Michelle confided to me that she found the glass tea cups at Goodwill for cheap, cheap! The girls got their own little cakes (pre-frosted) to decorate after their lunch.

Other fancy activities included: making bead necklaces, face painting, makeup, nail polishing, and…just playing in the backyard (my girls did a pretty even split of fanciness and playtime). Ava was probably a little young to sit still for the whole tea party, but the five-year-olds did very well.

Stupendous, splendid, fancy!

December 17 – Word or Phrase

“2009 was about letting go.”

At the beginning of 2009, I found myself over-committed and tried to trying to live up to being supermom/perfect lawyer. I wanted to start letting go of a few things and being ok with disappointing people from time to time. But it wasn’t easy. In fact, it wasn’t happening. As soon as I let go of one thing, I replaced it with another. Ok, maybe the other, new thing was more what I wanted to do, but it was still taking cycles and not freeing up my schedule much.

Then, in September 2009, Ben and Lily started kindergarten. Although I anticipated this to some degree, this change completely rocked my world. This was a MAJOR change for us – not only the place, but the time (after enjoying lazy afternoon preschool, leaving for school with 3 kids all ready to go for the day at 7:30am was…ahem….hard, VERY hard), the philosophy, the expectations, everything. Jeff was not around to help due to his work schedule and I was…barely keeping above water. I was worried that I would have to home school (and I am NOT a teacher!), because things were just going so badly with the adjustment. I decided that I would need to take a leave of absence from my law practice. With that…I felt a great sense of relief. I was able to focus on my family during that big adjustment time. I have had to let go of their babyhood and also of the notion of control. There are things I am still not happy with (homework in kindergarten, for instance!)…but I have let go a bit. After all, it is not possible for me to be as involved with their school as I have been with their preschool.

What the leave did for me was to free up my mind to consider other things. And what happened after that month leave was that I was offered the chance to become a partner at Silicon Valley Moms Group, one of my long-time clients. I am now happy to be able to use more than just my law degree, but also my business degree and all of the experience that a bunch of volunteer positions on the board of Gemini Crickets and Explorer Preschool has given me. I am still doing deals, which I love. I am still negotiating and drafting contracts, which I love. I am doing a ton of writing, which I love. I am doing a lot more creative stuff, which I love. And I am a part of a team, which I love and which is something I have missed these past several years being on my own in my solo law practice.  I still have a couple of law clients, but for the most part I am focusing my work on SV Moms and having a blast.

It feels good to let go of pressure, to do something a bit new, to take a risk and to just see what happens. By the way, if you haven’t already, please subscribe to the SV Moms Group newsletter (just go to www.svmoms.com and click on the box on the far right that says “receive the SV Moms Group Newsletter”) and follow SVMoms on twitter. Thanks! :)

December 18 – Shop

Anthropologie

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I adore this store and my twin sister Robin and I have a new annual birthday tradition of shopping together at Anthropologie for our birthday. We used to buy things for each other and now we just…buy things for ourselves while we are together around our birthday. I love the romantic, eclectic look. They have great, classic kid toys and gorgeous kitchen items too. I could seriously spend A LOT of money in there. I usually do very little shopping during the year, so I do save up to splurge on this once a year. Above are some of our favorite finds of 2009. Robin bought Jeff and I the new bedding for Christmas – ocean….ah…thank you very much!

December 19 – Car Ride

All around Oregon, Jeff and I’s 10 year wedding anniversary

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For our 10 year wedding anniversary, Jeff and I went to Portland, Oregon, last minute. We decided to stay a few different places during our 4 day getaway, so we ended up doing quite a bit of driving. We drove to Mt. Hood, past the Columbia River Gorge, from Portland to Eugene and into the woods by the river, then to the beach, along the coast and back to Portland. It was reminiscent of our life before kids, when we would just go for a drive as something to do together. We fought a bit over iPod playlists – we discovered that, left to my own devices, I tend to go for cover tunes…I have quite a few of them on my iPhone… – and I read aloud quite a bit from a book we bought at Powell’s Books in Portland, Outliers by Malcom Gladwell. More pictures, etc. from our trip here. We talked A LOT. We put our hands out the window and did that little wave thing. It was nice, very nice.

December 20 – New person

Maxine

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Maxine, as I mentioned to you on the evening of our daughters’ preschool sleepover at school, I had no idea I would find such a GOOD friend in you this year. We met at the beginning of the 4Day class and our daughters quickly became best friends. Who knew that I would soon find myself hanging out at your house drinking wine and eating your delicious food (OMG, my kids LOVE your mac and cheese to this day!), planning camping trips, talking life and politics and dreams. You helped me, coached me (really, truly) to stop living such a crazy life and to focus on the important stuff. I loved being on the preschool board with you (pilates at the board retreat, anyone?) and participating in your French day at school (Tour de Explorer!). Thank you for sharing your friendship, your family, your “bugs”, your wine, your exuberance for life, your perspective, and your swimming pool. I look forward to many more years of friendship to come!

October 18, 2009

Ava and Art Vista at Kindergarten

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Last week was a tough week on the babysitting front. My mom is out of town, my dad is working, my husband is working…all the time, my babysitter is in mourning. So last Friday, when I was scheduled to work in Ben and Lily's kindergarten classrooms, I was out of options. I really still wanted to be there – in fact, it was Art Vista week in Ben's class and I signed up to be a docent. We trekked off to school and Ben and Lily's teachers (actually, Lily had a sub) were kind enough to invite Ava in for a visit, so that I could still be there.

Ava, in true "me too" form, sat criss-cross applesauce on a carpet square and then proceeded to do some centers. In Lily's class, I was helping the kids work on patterns using Fruit Loops (I was popular!). Ava ate about 3 cups full (we brushed our teeth well after we got home). When she got bored, she headed over to the baby and kitchen area and played quietly. She liked the listening center a lot, listening to "There Was an Old Woman Who Swallowed a Bat" about three times. Lily was a bit sad that Ava wasn't able to tag along with her for the ENTIRE day ("She has to come to music! I'll watch her while you're in Ben's class. Please?! Pretty please with a cherry on top?"). During recess (oh boy, Ava was ready for recess after 2 hours of kindergarten!), she played and then lined up with Lily perfectly.

In Ben's class, Art Vista was So. Incredibly. Cool. I am so glad I was able to be there. The Art Vista program involves a project that 2-3 parents (docents) present and teach to the class once a month. There are seven projects and they all have a particular theme. For this first one, myself and the other docent (well, er, mainly the other docent, since I was watching Ava too!) talked to Ben's class about what "art" is (they are already great artists, really – just look around the room at all the stuff they have created), showed the class four famous prints involving horses, including a very abstract one by Kandinsky, and guided them through a very simple discussion about foreground and background and perspective ("if I draw the horse big, in the foreground, and then mountains small, in the background, it makes it look like the mountains are far away"). Then the kids got to draw horses (they uses stencils to trace), color their picture and do a "trick," using crayon resist, which creates a really cool effect. The kids had a great time, even though we were time limited. And, yes, we'll be seeing Ava's horse painting at the Art Show in the Spring, because…she did it too (twice, actually). Little Miss Me Too, in true form. 

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September 16, 2009

Back to school: Ben and Lily’s first few weeks of kindergarten is a mixed bag

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My twins club blog, Mad About Multiples, is having a topic week this week on Back to School, which has spurred me on to finally write about this! This post is cross-posted at Mad About Multiples and you can read more Back to School with Twins posts there.

On Tuesday, August 25th, Ben and Lily had a big day – they headed to kindergarten at our neighborhood public school. It was an exciting morning! The First Day of School Fairy came (thank you for the idea Makes and Takes!) and brought the kids new lunchboxes, thermoses, some craft projects and Peanut M&Ms for an after school treat. We jetted off on scooters to settle in and get introduced. It was a big disorganized – no true kindergarten orientation and we got the schedule for the morning at 10:30 as we were leaving…a nice memory, would have been nice to have that BEFORE the morning began! But all in all, a successful initial start.

Ben and Lily are in separate classes and Jeff took Lily to her class, while I started in Ben's. I teared up a little as Ben's teacher read "The Kissing Hand" (one of our favorite books that we've had for a long time, courtsey of Nana Sandy)…not really because they were going to kindergarten, but it was sort of a twin parent moment. I wanted to soak in Ben's first day, but I was also a bit sad to be missing Lily's first moments. It is always hard to feel pulled in two different directions with twins (oh, the guilt!). But, as it turned out, Ben's teacher was quick to turn us parents loose, while Lily's teacher took her time, so I was able to luckily make it over to Lily's class and hear her teacher read "The Kissing Hand" as well (and to get my special kiss!). Having Ava there as well complicated things just a bit, but she was very patient and excited to see what this kindergarten was all about, so it was fine.

I thought that perhaps our trip to the East Coast that we had just returned from five days prior would help out with the early morning wakeup time, but….no. Wow, what a change. After a lazy summer and afternoon preschool for the past year, we are NOT used to early rising, much less early getting dressed, eating breakfast, brushing teeth and getting out the door. School begins at 8:03am (such weird times!) and we scooter or walk there, so…(carry the 1…) we have to leave at 7:25am to get there on time. 7:25. Wow. That's early.

Of course, Miss Me Too (3-year-old Ava) thinks she is in kindergarten too. She insists on me packing her a lunchbox too and follows the kids on the playground to put her hands on her head and stop playing when the bell rings to go line up. Funny. (She is also doing nightly homework…more on that below.)

I'm not going to lie. It has been a mixed bag. It is GREAT to be going to our neighborhood school. I love scootering to and from school (the kids have learned to balance and ride their bikes sans training wheels with all this practice!) and seeing all the kids in our neighborhood heading in that direction, playing at the park with our new school/neighborhood friends, being able to do easy playdates, and just being close to home. On the other hand, I DESPISE how overly structured, pressured, and academic kindergarten is proving to be (I knew it would be, but didn't know how much) and I disagree with the negative discipline tactics that are often employed (e.g., take away recess or free choice time if you don't get through your work…these kids NEED to play!). For my kids, who NEVER once had a "bad" day at Explorer Preschool and have a true love of learning, this whole thing has been a bit of a shock to the system.

Ben has had an especially hard time. Ben was labeled as an "emerging leader" at Explorer, which is frowned upon by academic, negative discipline types. At times, I DO want him to sort of…join the rest of society and not have it be "his choice" ALL the time. But I also don't want his spirit to be squashed. I am a big fan of thinking outside the box and believe that churning out students who can take tests, but not THINK is and will not be good for our future. 

For Lily, well, she's a pleaser. She LOVES kindergarten. On her first day, she said it was the BEST DAY EVER! And it has only gotten better (she has her times when she wants to stay home and relax, but mostly it is all rosy). Her teacher hasn't given homework yet really, but we give her optional stuff because she just wants to. She is excited that her teacher LETS her do homework. Joy! (I'm so glad I separated them for kindergarten, by the way.) I sometimes feel guilty that I am spending so much time making sure Ben is ok…I hope I can remember to focus on Lily too.

We ARE making progress. Jeff and I have both made some major changes in our lives over the past few weeks. I
am taking a leave from my law practice (maybe a month, maybe more) and Jeff has committed to: 1) take Ben and Lily to school every Monday to show them he views it as important and 2) be home at 6pm (instead of 7 or 7:30 or…) so that we can all do homework together (this one is tough for him with his commute from work and his high-pressure job right now, but he's trying). We are staying in contact with Ben and Lily's teachers and doing a lot of the other things that are supposed to help. I am volunteering in both of their classrooms on Fridays – they are very different, their teachers could not be more opposite – and the kids are excited about that and it seems very comfortable for them and for me, coming from a coop preschool background.

Homework, like making lunches and getting up early, is becoming a bit more routine. I was and remain philosophically against homework in kindergarten (apart from reading 20 minutes or more a day), but I am actually realizing that if you have to get these academic standards met, you really have to do the homework. And, for Ben, it is actually proving to be a confidence builder. Ben has always been a kid who is cautious and wants to be 150% sure that he can do something perfectly before he tries and this stalls him. So we baby step it at home with the homework and he's getting it.

As much as I dislike this, I find myself doing a sticker chart for "good days" and homework, with a reward. I guess I feel like we need this as a temporary motivational tool and…it is working. Ben is pretty motivated to do well at school because of it and hopefully we can help him see the other reasons to do well over time. 

I am AMAZED at how much Ben and Lily are learning in kindergarten. They seem so much older and more capable after just one month. I am not celebrating the academics though – it saddens me how much they are expected to do at age five. I am SO glad that we did Explorer and let them "just play" and learn things that were age-appropriate. They actually did learn a ton at Explorer – both conventional and unconventional things. And I am thankful for that unique experience. I guess I just hope we can continue to give them the opportunities to think outside the box at home, even if they don't get those opportunities much at school.

In some ways, I wish I could send them all to a private school (which would probably have to be a little bit hippie) to get what I feel is best. But at the same time, I don't want to work full-time at a boring job in order to be able to afford private school for all three of my kids AND I feel like there are things that can be done to improve the California public school system. I only hope the pendulum hasn't swung too far in the wrong direction.

Note: I'm late in getting this August topic published for Back to School as a part of the Yahoo! Mothers Board, but, as you can see, we've been busy! You can read other Yahoo! Mothers Board members posts about Back to School by Kim, Donna, April, Joanne, and Julie.

Some resources from Yahoo! for Back to School:

January 29, 2009

The Kindergarten Crazies

I'm over at Silicon Valley Moms Blog today, talking about The Kindergarten Crazies.

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Just when I thought I had preschool all
figured out, it is time to start over – my twins just turned 5 last
week and will be headed to the big K next year. Kindergarten. It is the
talk of my preschool class, my playgroup, my table at my twins club's
moms holid
ay dinner last week…and it probably will be the big subject
at my parent-teacher conference which is scheduled for tomorrow. Are
they ready? Should I separate them or not? And, the main thing at this
point, where will they go? Open houses, intra-district transfers,
inter-district transfers, lotteries. I *think* my twins are ready. 

But am I?

Continue reading "The Kindergarten Crazies" at Silicon Valley Moms Blog.

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